Recently readHow to reject and how to accept rejection. Gwen’s so wise, it’s crazy. Especially this part on how not to handle a rejection:
Do NOT say:
“What? Why not??” or
“But… but… I thought…” or
“I think you’re making a big mistake, because…” or
“Well, then you’ve been leading me on all this time,” or
anything with bad words in it. […]
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Guys who are cheesy towards their partner in public REALLY need to stop it. Exhibit A, Jenna Elfman’s husband. Okay, they’re Scientologists, so he’s obviously starting out a bit soft in the head, but there is no way I can fully describe just how unattractive this kind of behaviour is. You may as well be […]
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I agree 100 per cent with everything Gwen says here.
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One of my favourite blogs right now is The Happiness Project. It’s the kind of blog I really need to sit down and digest - not just skim and then mark as read in my RSS reader - and I’m treating myself to a catch-up session with what Gretchen’s been writing. As always, a rewarding […]
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Perfectionism is the highest order of self-abuse.
Source unknown; thanks to Ashley Judd for this one.
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This woman makes me break out in hives. Reading this article - where, for once, she doesn’t mention that Cherie Blair is her sister - I cringed about a thousand times. Lauren, it’s pretty easy:
1) Hire someone to do the cleaning and ironing. Even in London, you can easily find someone to do this for […]
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Oh, man. I just got to minute 31 of Perry’s conversation with Brian, at which point they start to debate whether Antoine and I met at a Samizdata party or at one of Brian’s Friday’s (the last-Friday-of-the-month talk that Brian hosted at his place every month for years). For the - embarrassing, sad - record, […]
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It’s a shame that Kylie Minogue had to get cancer to see what kind of man she’s got, but - if my experience is anything to go on - the signs are usually there anyway:
[Olivier] is the most honourable man I have ever met. He’s surprising. On particularly dark days I’d be lying on the […]
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A good friend of mine, a blogger, just got engaged, and she’s not sure she should change her name for professional reasons. Quite frankly, she could lose Google juice with a new last name.
That’s from Jory des Jardins, who just got married and is keeping her name.
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This Daily Mail article about how (in)frequently women have sex in Britain (total trainwreck reading) includes a case study of a 22-year-old virgin. For some reason, the idea of a 22-year-old who chooses to remain a virgin seems a lot less weird to me now than it would have even a few years ago. The […]
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From today’s Observer:
Love…needs closeness and intimacy and familiarity to flourish. Desire does not. Desire needs distance, insecurity, novelty and surprise. Desire needs tension, breaches and repairs. Love is not comfortable with fights, but desire needs fights. Fights generate energy, erotic energy - and this is not just desire for sex, but a general exuberance and […]
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I’ve just been through three weeks of intensely negative shit (there is no other word for it) being thrown at me from an unexpected corner, and to say that I have been driven to distraction by things, that I have lost sleep over things, is only part of the story. The other part of the […]
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Man, I cannot thank Robyn enough for transcribing this Merrill Markoe article on narcissists. I can think of a few people I know who fit this bill, but one individual is proving particularly draining at the moment. Sound like anyone you know?
Narcissists are people who cover up feelings of shame and worthlessness inflicted during their […]
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I have just finished reading Portrait of a Marriage: Vita Sackville-West and Harold Nicolson, a book I nearly did not buy from my local Children’s Society charity shop, but whose £1 price tag compelled me to try it anyway. I’m so glad I did.
From the back cover:
The ‘marriage’ was that between the two writers Vita […]
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