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Gratitude

Posted on October 2nd, 2006 by Jackie Danicki

I’ve just been through three weeks of intensely negative shit (there is no other word for it) being thrown at me from an unexpected corner, and to say that I have been driven to distraction by things, that I have lost sleep over things, is only part of the story. The other part of the story is that several of my very good friends - people I knew would tell me the truth even if it hurt me - listened, gave advice, and have helped me more than I can say here on this blog. Antoine (I consulted him so much on this matter that I did fear momentarily that his little accident may have been an attempt to change the subject for a while), Peter Revell, Amy Alkon (how great to have a friend who gets paid to give people advice, and who insists on giving it to you for free!), Nancy Rommelmann, Adriana Lukas, and my solicitor David Carr have all been of great assistance to me during a really awful time. Thanks, guys, and please feel free to kick my ass if I ever come to you again with the same exact predicament.

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6 Responses to “Gratitude”

  1. JT, on October 2nd, 2006 at 2:23 pm Said:

    I helped by staying out of the way! :shock::shock::shock:

  2. nancy, on October 2nd, 2006 at 6:50 pm Said:

    The awfulness, I think, was because it had so many components: social, business, financial, moral. It had the capacity to bleed into and infect so many areas of your life. As for the perpetrator: I will give back to you what you once gave me: thank god we would never treat anyone this way. I also offer those timeless words of wisdom: just because someone wants to hand you a pile of sh*t doesn’t mean you have to take it.

  3. Jackie Danicki, on October 2nd, 2006 at 6:59 pm Said:

    I just want to say, for the record: I have wronged people in my life, and how. This is the girl who moved to England without telling her own father she was going. But what matters is how we move on from those things and…stuff. Nancy, your example has no doubt made me a better person than I was before I met you, and maybe you wouldn’t have liked me years ago. If I say I’ve gotten a lot better in a lot of ways, I hope it doesn’t sound egotistical, because…Well, I was pretty bad. (I just don’t want to sound like I’m taking a holier-than-thou position on anything; just saying, the last three weeks kicked my ass.)

  4. nancy, on October 2nd, 2006 at 7:33 pm Said:

    If we’re having a public airing here: as Jackie well knows, I have behaved abysmally, and in my memoir(s), have noted that, gee, here I am writing all these horrible things about other people, whereas I cringe to recall someone remembering me as the girl who vomited on the wheel of their car because I’d sniffed some meth in the bathroom of a biker bar. By way of saying: we’ve all been horrible and stupid, but mostly, we’re not. And we certainly do not treat (and I will wager never have) someone as contemptibly as you were in this situation. Anyone with as much empathy as you is incapable of doing so.
    Now, onward.

  5. Squander Two, on October 4th, 2006 at 12:46 am Said:

    If anything, having been bad in the past and improved puts you in a stronger position to criticise those who have not improved, not a weaker one. Assuming the perp isn’t a teenager, they have no excuse not to have learnt from their own nastiness and grown up.

  6. Adriana, on October 4th, 2006 at 4:33 pm Said:

    Jackie, you do the same for others… the least your friends can do is to do their best for you when you let them. :)