The myth of sexual ethics
This is the topic on which my friend Paul Coulam will be speaking at the next 6/20 evening in London, this Saturday at 7PM. Paul is a magnificent speaker, to groups or in one-on-one conversation, and I do not exaggerate when I say I am very sad to miss his talk.
Sex is the dark and turbulent power that shapes much of our social and emotional lives. It is so potent that people have thought mistakenly that it requires its own set of moral rules. “Not at all” Paul will argue, against a Mary Poppins view of life. However forceful, extreme or deviant, sex falls under the same rules that govern our relationships with others. It doesn’t entail any specific ethics.
You may be outraged, but you will be enlightened and entertained, especially when the time for Q&A comes (trust me). Drop me an email if you’d like specific location details for the talk, which is held near Bond Street Tube station. (The talk is starting early to allow people to make tracks for the rugby World Cup final, featuring two teams I wish could both lose.)
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Sex has no rules unless it is “forceful, extreme or deviant”. How would one know it was forceful, extreme or deviant sex unless their were some rules to define it? I would say it falls under the same rules that govern our other relationships. And I don’t think being Pauline is being Mary Poppins but alright, give me an umbrella. :cool:
Paul didn’t say there were no rules - he maintains that there are no *special* rules. The same ethics which apply to relations outside of the bedroom (or kitchen, or wherever you’re getting dirty-dirty) apply to sexual relations.